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Today's parents are constantly pressured to be perfect. But in striving to do everything right, we risk missing what children really need for lifelong emotional security. Now the simple, powerful "Circle of Security" parenting strategies that Kent Hoffman, Glen Cooper, and Bert Powell have taught thousands of families are available in self-help form for the first time.
You will learn:
*How to balance nurturing and protectiveness with promoting your child's independence.
*What emotional needs a toddler or older child may be expressing through difficult behavior.
*How your own upbringing affects your parenting style--and what you can do about it.
Filled with vivid stories and unique practical tools, this book puts the keys to healthy attachment within everyone's reach--self-understanding, flexibility, and the willingness to make and learn from mistakes. Self-assessment checklists can be downloaded and printed for ease of use.
Kent Hoffman, RelD, Glen Cooper MA, and Bert Powell, MA, are psychotherapists devoted to translating complex developmental research and clinical insight into straightforward and accessible guidance for individuals and families. They have had a shared clinical practice in Spokane, Washington, since 1985. Much of their work has focused on creating the Circle of Security.
Library Journal Review
Attachments build confidence that enable children to find who they truly are and can become in the wide world, according to Hoffman, Glen Cooper, and Bert Powell's tome on nurturing emotional resilience and exploration. Twenty years ago, the authors created a 20-week program for parents struggling with their relationship with toddlers and preschoolers, which has been adapted in schools and therapeutic settings. Children with a secure attachment with at least one parent do better in school, have stronger friendships, enjoy better physical health, and go on to have more intimate, fulfilling, and enduring relationships, according to studies the authors cite from the 1950s. Hoffman et al. also believe one of the seminal mistakes of parenting is in placing focus on trying not to make mistakes. Instead of perfect parenting, the authors stress the need for present parenting. They believe being there for our children, mistakes and all, builds trust and frees our children to be who they really are in front of us. Security leads to confidence, which leads to self-reliance. Although the book is marketed to the average parent, its suggested audience seems to be professionals in the psychology or childhood development fields as the writing style is a bit more slow-paced and the authors make liberal use of charts and diagrams. VERDICT A parent with little to no reading time might prefer a format that gives simple suggestions rather than case studies and quotes from experts. Recommended for those already familiar with the Circle of Security method or for professionals.-Julia M. Reffner, North -Chesterfield, VA © Copyright 2016. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.
|Authors' Note||p. xv|
|Part I All Around the Circle: Understanding Attachment and the Importance of Security|
|1 Attachment: Why It Matters||p. 11|
|2 Security: Befriending Imperfection||p. 35|
|3 A Map for Attachment: The Circle of Security||p. 58|
|4 Being the Hands on the Circle||p. 83|
|5 Shark Music: How Our Childhood Echoes in Our Parenting||p. 115|
|6 Behavior as Communication: Cues and Miscues||p. 146|
|Part II Creating and Maintaining the Circle: How to Be Bigger, Stronger, Wiser, and Kind-and Good Enough|
|7 Shark Bones: Exploring Our Core Sensitivities||p. 181|
|8 Testing New Waters: Choosing Security||p. 210|
|9 Staying Afloat: Choosing Security Over and Over as Your Child Crows||p. 239|
|About the Authors||p. 279|