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Title:
The tantrum survival guide : tune in to your toddler's mind (and your own) to calm the craziness and make family fun again / Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, PhD ; foreword by Daniel J. Siegel, MD.
ISBN:
9781462537259

9781462529711
Publication Information:
New York, NY : The Guilford Press, [2019]
Physical Description:
xii, 250 pages ; 23 cm
General Note:
"You haven't seen a tantrum until you've seen my toddler's tantrums": when should you worry? -- "Really? This is what you're going to melt down over?": understanding causes and triggers -- "What's going on in that curious little mind?": being realistic about the limitations of the developing brain -- "Why can't I handle this?": parental expectations, baggage, and emotions -- "Maybe if things were just a bit less crazy on the home front": family dynamics and the foundation for reducing tantrums -- "Of course you'll always be my sweet little baby (except possibly when you pee in the bath on purpose)": preserving the authentic connection with your toddler -- "Who's making the rules here?": using reasonable structures and routines to help your toddler feel secure -- "OK. But. Now. What. Exactly. Should. I. Do?": practical strategies for preventing and deescalating tantrums -- "Am I making things worse?": concrete ways to avoid knee-jerk responses and other "anti-tools" that just don't work -- "Please just go to sleep, already!": how to reduce tantrums at tough times of day, from wake-up to bedtime -- "How many times can we order pizza for dinner?" (a.k.a. Another aborted trip to the supermarket)": how to reduce tantrums in tricky settings, from the big-box store to the playground and beyond -- "A tantrum is quite possibly the last thing I need right now": how to reduce tantrums under difficult circumstances, from travel to moving to divorce resources.
Abstract:
"If you are the parent of a toddler or preschooler, chances are you know a thing or two about tantrums. While those epic meltdowns can certainly be part of 'normal' toddler behavior, they are still maddening, stressful, and exhausting--for everyone involved. What can you do to keep your cool and help your child calm down? Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, child psychologist and mother of two, has a unique understanding of both the science behind tantrums and what works in the heat of the moment to nip blowups in the bud. With her customizable plan, you'll learn: why your toddler's developing brain is hardwired for 'big emotions'; what you may be doing (unintentionally) to encourage outbursts; ways to use structure and routines to help your child feel secure; how to reduce tantrums at tough times of day, from wake-up to bedtime; strategies for managing tantrums under difficult circumstances, from travel to moving to divorce; ways to deepen your parent-child connection--starting right now"-- Provided by publisher.

"Most parents of toddlers and preschoolers know a thing or two about tantrums--those epic meltdowns that seem to come out of nowhere. Even though tantrums can be part of 'normal' toddler behavior, they are maddening, stressful, and exhausting. What can parents do to help everyone step back and calm down? With candor and wit, Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, psychologist and mom of two, explains the science behind why tantrums occur and what parents might unintentionally be doing to encourage them. She offers a customizable plan for nipping blowups in the bud while fostering healthy development and deeper parent-child connections. Imagine family life with equal measures of love and limits--and less drama"-- Provided by publisher.
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If you are the parent of a toddler or preschooler, chances are you know a thing or two about tantrums. While those epic meltdowns can certainly be part of "normal" toddler behavior, they are still maddening, stressful, and exhausting--for everyone involved. What can you do to keep your cool and help your child calm down? Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, child psychologist and mother of two, has a unique understanding of both the science behind tantrums and what works in the heat of the moment to nip blowups in the bud. With her customizable plan, you'll learn:

*Why your toddler's developing brain is hardwired for "big emotions."
*What you may be doing (unintentionally) to encourage outbursts.
*Ways to use structure and routines to help your child feel secure.
*How to reduce tantrums at tough times of day, from wake-up to bedtime.
*Strategies for managing tantrums under difficult circumstances, from travel to moving to divorce.
*Ways to deepen your parent-child connection--starting right now.

A Greater Good Favorite Parenting Book of 2018


Author Notes

Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and founder of Little House Calls Psychological Services, which specializes in helping kids and parents confronting a range of common early childhood challenges. Dr. Hershberg has held leadership positions at a national nonprofit organization serving children and a hospital-based infant and toddler preventive mental health program. She has taught in the Department of Pediatrics at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine and has presented numerous seminars and workshops for parents. She lives in the New York City area with her husband and two young sons.


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Library Journal Review

"How Many Times Can We Order Pizza for Dinner?" "Please Just Go To Sleep Already!" The chapter titles in clinical psychologist Hershberg's book about toddler tirades consist of comedic quips that many parents may have quoted a time or two. According to the author, tantrums don't occur in a vacuum, and this survival guide is designed to help readers find the triggers and family dynamics that contribute to major meltdowns. Offering long-term strategies (think "L" for love and limits), Hershberg conveys the importance of a home filled with both warmth and boundaries. In addition, she acknowledges the need for in-the-moment strategies for heated times that teach parents to pause and create their own "bible" of methods specific to their child. VERDICT Including proactive and preventative approaches, Hershberg's comprehensive manual to the struggles of the preschool years will prove valuable to the multitude of parents looking to bring calm to their household.-Julia M. Reffner, Richmond © Copyright 2018. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.