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Untrue : why nearly everything we believe about women, lust, and infidelity is wrong and how the new science can set us free / Wednesday Martin.
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Why nearly everything we believe about women, lust, and infidelity is wrong and how the new science can set us free
ISBN:
9780316463614
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First Edition.
Publication Information:
New York : Little, Brown Spark, an imprint of Little, Brown and Company, a division of Hachette Book Group, Inc., 2018.

©2018
Physical Description:
v, 312 pages, 16 unnumbered pages of plates : illustrations (chiefly color) ; 25 cm
Contents:
Meet the adulteress -- Free your mind -- Women who love sex too much -- How free are we? -- Ploughs, property, propriety -- Being Himba -- Bonobos in paradise -- Significant otherness -- Loving the woman who's untrue -- Life is short. Should you be untrue? -- Female choices.
Abstract:
From ancient Greek tragedies, to the latest Netflix series, cheating women are portrayed as dangerous and damaged. Why, in this age of female empowerment, do we continue to judge them so harshly? Martin takes us on a fascinating journey to reveal the unexpected evolutionary legacy and social realities that drive female faithlessness, while laying bare our motivations to contain women who step out. From recent data suggesting women may struggle more than men with sexual exclusivity, to Martin's assertion that female sexual autonomy is the ultimate metric of gender equality, this book will change the way you think about women and sex. -- adapted from jacket.
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From the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Primates of Park Avenue , a bold, timely reconsideration of female infidelity that will upend everything you thought you knew about women and sex.

What do straight, married female revelers at an all-women's sex club in LA have in common with nomadic pastoralists in Namibia who bear children by men not their husbands? Like women worldwide, they crave sexual variety, novelty, and excitement.

In ancient Greek tragedies, Netflix series, tabloids and pop songs, we've long portrayed such cheating women as dangerous and damaged. We love to hate women who are untrue. But who are they really? And why, in this age of female empowerment, do we continue to judge them so harshly? In Untrue , feminist author and cultural critic Wednesday Martin takes us on a bold, fascinating journey to reveal the unexpected evolutionary legacy and social realities that drive female faithlessness, while laying bare our motivations to contain women who step out.

Blending accessible social science and interviews with sex researchers, anthropologists, and real women from all walks of life, Untrue challenges our deepest assumptions about ourselves, monogamy, and the women we think we know. From recent data suggesting women may struggle more than men with sexual exclusivity to the revolutionary idea that females of many species evolved to be "promiscuous" to Martin's trenchant assertion that female sexual autonomy is the ultimate metric of gender equality, Untrue will change the way you think about women and sex forever.


Author Notes

Wednesday Martin is an American author who grew up in Michigan and received a doctorate in comparative studies from Yale University in 1996. Martin taught cultural studies and literature at Yale, The New School for Social Research and Baruch College. She worked in qualitative market research and advertising for several years. She is a blogger, and commenter on parenting, step-parenting, and popular culture. She has written for Psychology Today, the New York Post, The Daily Telegraph, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Fitness, Glamour, TIME and The Huffington Post. She is the author of three books: the instant #1 New York Times bestseller Primates of Park Avenue and Stepmonster, and Marlene Dietrich.

(Bowker Author Biography)


Reviews 2

Publisher's Weekly Review

Martin (Primates of Park Avenue) brings an energetic and scientific curiosity to female infidelity in this chatty, thoughtful work. Combining first-person introspection, interviews with both experts and ordinary women, and research, Martin interrogates social assumptions about this taboo. She speaks with experts, including biophysicist Meredith Chivers, psychologist Marta Meana, and sociologist Alicia Walker, who have contributed to contemporary discourse challenging the preconception that women's sex drives are biologically lower than men's. Primatologists such as Sarah Blaffer Hrdy challenge the idea that female biology enforces monogamy in human as well as animal society. Martin reviews societal shaming of female sexual desire in multiple cultures and time periods; investigates how infidelity overlaps with and differs from polyamory and other types of consensual nonmonogamy; discusses how black women's sexuality is influenced by racism; and illuminates how the male partners of unfaithful women react (often, not as one might expect). She concludes that financial independence seems to most directly predict whether women have, and exercise, autonomy over their sex lives. Martin's thoroughly researched reconsideration of female sexual desire and infidelity will broaden readers' understanding of women, sex, and monogamy. (Sept.) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.


Library Journal Review

Martin (Primates of Park Avenue) sets out to collect, analyze, and distill academic research on female infidelity while, in true cultural anthropologist fashion, intertwining that data with personal observations and pop culture references. The author promotes a radical revisioning of how society views female sexuality and identifies a need to focus on women having more sexual choices. An accessible blend of science, history, and cultural critique provides a history of female self-determination through the years as women began to marry for love. Martin also charts how American culture has transformed into one of competitive motherhood compared to other countries. At times playful, the narrative teems with fascinating commentary about everything from bonobos and paleolithic gender roles to Craigslist ads, as Martin examines how female sexuality continues to be shaped and stigmatized by artificial social constructions, sociopolitical values, and economics, all under the guise of "natural" female biology and desire. VERDICT A timely take on femininity and sexuality.-Emily Bowles, Univ. of Wisconsin, Madison © Copyright 2018. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.


Table of Contents

Meet the Adulteressp. 3
Chapter 1 Free Your Mindp. 17
Chapter 2 Women Who Love Sex Too Muchp. 41
Chapter 3 How Free Are We?p. 61
Chapter 4 Ploughs, Property, Proprietyp. 87
Chapter 5 Being Himbap. 119
Chapter 6 Bonobos in Paradisep. 163
Chapter 7 Significant Othernessp. 195
Chapter 8 Loving the Woman Who's Untruep. 223
Chapter 9 Life Is Short. Should You Be Untrue?p. 257
Female Choicesp. 262
Authors Notep. 267
Acknowledgmentsp. 268
Notesp. 270
Indexp. 298