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Loving like you mean it : use the power of emotional mindfulness to transform your relationships / Ronald J. Frederick.
Publication Information:
Las Vegas, NV : Central Recovery Press, [2019]
Physical Description:
xxiv, 241 pages : illustrations ; 23 cm
: Making sense of how you're wired -- You've got to have style -- Step one, recognize and name -- Step two, stop, drop, and stay -- Step three, pause and reflect -- Step four, mindfully relate -- Feeling and dealing -- Closing: becoming real -- Appendix: Seeking professional help -- Acknowledgments -- References.

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No matter how hard we try, many of us struggle to make love work with our partners. The problem, as clinical psychologist Dr. Ron Frederick explains, is that our brains are running on outdated software. Without us knowing it, our early relationship programming causes us to fear being more emotionally present and authentic with our partners--precisely what's needed to build loving connections. But we don't have to remain prisoners to our past.

Grounded in cutting-edge neuroscience and attachment theory, Loving Like You Mean It shares a proven four-step approach to use emotional mindfulness to break free from old habits, befriend your emotional experience, and develop new ways of relating. The capacity for deep, loving connections is inside all of us, waiting to come out. By practicing the science behind loving like you mean it, your relationships can be fuller and richer than you ever imagined.

Author Notes

Ronald J. Frederick, PhD , co-founded the Center for Courageous Living in Beverly Hills, California, and is a senior faculty member of the Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy Institute. For over twenty years, he has provided emotion-centered, experiential therapy to individuals and couples and actively trains other psychotherapists. Frederick is the author of the bestselling book Living Like You Mean It and a recipient of the American Psychological Association's Malyon-Smith Scholarship Award for his research on the fear of intimacy. He lectures and teaches workshops around the world.

Table of Contents

Introductionp. xi
Part I How We're Wired
Chapter 1 Making Sense of How You're Wiredp. 3
Chapter 2 You've Got to Have Stylep. 27
Part II Updating Our Wiring
Chapter 3 Step One: Recognize and Namep. 55
Chapter 4 Step Two: Stop, Drop, and Stayp. 87
Chapter 5 Step Three: Pause and Reflectp. 121
Chapter 6 Step Four: Mindfully Relatep. 155
Part III Rewiring in Action
Chapter 7 Feeling and Dealingp. 193
Closing Becoming Realp. 225
Appendix Seeking Professional Helpp. 229
Acknowledgmentsp. 231
About The Authorp. 233
Referencesp. 235