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Title:
Now say this : the right words to solve every parenting dilemma : [the 3-step approach to effective communication] / Heather Turgeon, MFT, and Julie Wright, MFT.
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9780143130345
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New York, New York : A TarcherPerigee Book, [2018]

©2018
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xiii, 335 pages : illustrations ; 21 cm
General Note:
"Baby to school age"--Cover.
Abstract:
A toddler meltdown over the wrong pair of pants, siblings fighting in the back of the car, constant struggles just to leave the house ... Parents have the best intentions to be patient and loving, but in the heat of the moment, they often find themselves feeling helpless, desperate, and so frustrated that they resort to yelling, threatening, bribing, or caving. Now Say This solves the dilemma of how to be empathic and effective at once. Based on the popular 3-step "ALP" model - Attune, Limit Set, Problem Solve - the authors have taught thousands of parents in their clinical practice, Now Say This addresses issues such as: Tantrums, Sibling Relationships, Screen Time, Bedtime. Best of all, it answers the question, "Now, what do you actually say?" using scripts and body language tips from real life examples. User-friendly and research based, Now Say This transforms remarkable ideas into practical how-to's that busy parents can use right away.
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A powerful new parenting book that gives parents the exact words to solve any sticky parenting situation!

A toddler meltdown over the wrong pair of pants, siblings fighting in the back of the car, kids crying when you try to leave the house...
Parents have the best intentions to be patient and loving, but in the heat of the moment, they too often find themselves feeling helpless, desperate, and so frustrated that they resort to yelling, threatening, bribing, or caving. Now Say This solves the dilemma: how can you be empathic and effective at once? Based on the popular 3-step "ALP" model the authors have taught thousands of parents in their clinical practice, and written in a friendly, balanced, and research-based tone, Now Say This addresses issues such as,
* Tantrums
* Engaging cooperation
* Sibling relationships
* Screentime
* Bedtime
Best of all, it answers the question, "Now, what do you actually say?" using scripts and body language from real life examples. Now Say This is a guide that transforms remarkable ideas into practical how-to's that busy parents can use right away.


Author Notes

Heather Turgeon, MFT, is a psychotherapist who specializes in sleep end parenting. Her writing has appeared in kite New York Times and The Washington Post, among other publications. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband and two kids. She and Julie frequently speak at parenting centers and schools, and offer sleep consultations and individual therapy.
Julie Wright, MFT, is the creator of the Wright Mommy and Me one of Los Angeles's best-known mommy and me programs. She has specialized training and experience in the 0 to 3 years, having interned at the Cedars-Sinai early Childhood Center and Los Angeles Child Guidance Clinic. She divides her time between Los Angeles and New York City and has a son in college.


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Psychotherapist Turgeon and early childhood therapist Wright, coauthors of The Happy Sleeper and HappySleeper.com, are known for offering online consultation for exhausted parents. Here they employ the ALP method: Attune (watch, listen, and understand), Limit Set (state reasonable boundaries), and Problem Solve (engage your child in creating solutions) to a variety of parenting situations. Though the authors acknowledge that up-front communication is an art, not an exact science, and that their words are not the only words, their research shows that parents are looking for communication examples. After describing ALP, they walk readers through applying the model in challenging moments (tantrums, sibling rivalry, screen time, bedtime, etc.), including sample scripts. VERDICT Parenting styles are so individual, and this book may appeal to some (especially first-timers), but communication with children is not a simple process, and the scripts at times seem stilted. An -optional purchase. © Copyright 2018. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.


Table of Contents

Introductionp. vii
Chapter 1 Three Steps for Communicating in Difficult Momentsp. 1
Chapter 2 Proactive Toolsp. 57
Chapter 3 Difficult Feelings and Tantrumsp. 95
Chapter 4 Hitting, Pushing, Biting, and Other Physical Behaviorsp. 153
Chapter 5 Listening, Following Directions, and Engaging Cooperationp. 181
Chapter 6 Sibling Relationshipsp. 233
Chapter 7 Screen Timep. 279
Acknowledgmentsp. 317
Notesp. 319
Indexp. 323
About the Authorsp. 335

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