Cover image for The jealousy cure : learn to trust, overcome possessiveness & save your relationship / Robert L. Leahy, PhD ; foreword by Paul Gilbert, PhD.
The jealousy cure : learn to trust, overcome possessiveness & save your relationship / Robert L. Leahy, PhD ; foreword by Paul Gilbert, PhD.
Publication Information:
Oakland, California : New Harbinger Publications, Inc., 2018.

Physical Description:
vii, 235 pages ; 23 cm


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152.48 LEA Book Adult General Collection
152.48 LEA Book Adult General Collection

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Could jealousy be a positive thing? In this groundbreaking book, Robert L. Leahy-author of the hugely popular self-help guide, The Worry Cure-invites you to gain a greater understanding of your jealous feelings, keep jealousy from hijacking your life, and create healthier relationships.We've all heard tales of the overly jealous spouse or significant other. Maybe we've even been that jealous person, though we may not want to admit it. It's hard to imagine anyone sailing through life without either having feelings of jealousy or being the target of someone's jealousy. But what if jealousy isn't just a neurotic weakness? What if it signals that your relationship matters to you? In short-what if jealousy serves a purpose? In The Jealousy Cure, renowned psychologist Robert L. Leahy takes a more nuanced approach to tackling feelings of jealousy. In this compelling book, you'll uncover the evolutionary origins of jealousy, and how and why it's served to help us as a species. You'll also learn practices based in emotional schema theory, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and mindfulness to help you overcome the shame jealousy can bring, improve communication with your partner, and ultimately make room for jealousy while also making your relationship more meaningful. You will learn that confronting jealousy in your relationship does not have to be a catastrophe, but can redirect you and your partner to build more trust, acceptance, and connection.We often feel jealous because we fear losing the things or people that matter to us the most. With this insightful guide, you'll discover how jealousy can both help and hurt your relationship, and learn proven-effective skills to keep jealousy in its place.

Author Notes

Robert L. Leahy, PhD, is a renowned psychologist and author of several books, including The Worry Cure. He writes a regular blog for Psychology Today, and is an international speaker who has been featured in print, radio, and television media.
Foreword writer Paul Gilbert, PhD, is developer of compassion-focused therapy (CFT), and author of numerous books, including The Compassionate Mind.

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Library Journal Review

In his newest book, Leahy (The Worry Cure) reveals that jealousy can be a positive feeling when it causes people to reflect on their relationships. But it can also hijack a person's mind and drive one's partner away. Using a combination of cognitive-behavioral therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, and mindfulness techniques to encourage healthy relationships, Leahy first details the strategies that don't work (e.g., interrogation, accusations, looking for clues) and then guides readers through evaluating and talking back to jealous thoughts. Leahy concludes with a section on how couples can work together to find acceptable solutions. VERDICT Solid counsel for those whose relationships are plagued by jealousy and the individuals it targets. © Copyright 2018. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Forewordp. v
Introductionp. 1
Part I About the Passion of Jealousy
1 The Evolution of Competitive Emotionsp. 9
2 Is Jealousy a Problem for You?p. 21
3 Attachment and Commitmentp. 29
Part II How Jealousy Becomes a Problem
4 Hijacked by the Jealous Mindp. 49
5 Jealous Strategies That Drive Your Partner Awayp. 75
Part III Turning Jealousy Around
6 Stepping Back to Observe and Acceptp. 93
7 Living with Your Thoughtsp. 109
8 Talking Back to Your Jealousyp. 131
9 Putting Jealousy in Contextp. 157
10 Solving It Togetherp. 167
11 Getting Past the Past to Overcome Retrospective Jealousyp. 189
12 "It's Complicated"-Getting Past Infidelityp. 205
Concluding Reflectionsp. 225
Acknowledgmentsp. 229
Notesp. 231