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Bad advice : how to survive and thrive in an age of bullshit / Venus Nicolino ; Paula Feldman, co-writer.
First edition.
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New York, NY : HarperOne, [2018]
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229 pages : 25 cm.
Introduction -- Expectations lead to disappointment -- You get what you get and you don't get upset -- Nobody can make you feel bad without your permission -- You can't love anyone until you love yourself -- Just be yourself -- Honesty is the best policy -- Follow your bliss -- Live each day like it was your last -- Conclusion: so what now?
A psychologist and TV personality uses science and humor to debunk damaging self-help truisms and offer strategies for transformation and tapping into one's full potential.
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Over motivational messages? Sick AF of inspirational quotes? Done with the shiny happy bad advice that gets you nowhere? Well, heads up: you're about to get a shitload of Good Advice.

In Bad Advice, relationship expert Dr. Venus Nicolino--a.k.a. Dr. V--takes a blowtorch to the shrink-wrapped, "feel good" BS that passes for self-help these days.

When you're heartbroken, what do you hear? You can't love anyone until you love yourself. When someone's hurt you? Nobody can make you feel bad without your permission. When you're just a little too positive? Expectations lead to disappointment.

Pop culture noise gives Bad Advice the varnish of truthiness and inspiration. But it's not truth; it's not inspiration. It's bullshit. And at its root, all Bad Advice operates off the same lie: Emotions are optional. In Bad Advice, Dr. V delivers a bracing truth serum, in the form of Good Advice--an antidote to the bullshit, from "Just Be Yourself" to "Live Each Day Like It's Your Last," that teaches you to live your life in a way that honors who you are, what you need, and how you feel.

Smart and irreverent, Dr. V fuses the brains and insight of a nerdy Ph.D. with the heart of a doting Italian Mother and the artful profanity of a Philly trucker. Dr. V's signature combination of humor, hard science, and heart make Bad Advice an iconoclastic course-correction like no other. A fiercely sharp wake-up call that tackles some of self-help's most damaging truisms, Bad Advice is a never shy guide to tapping into your full potential.

Table of Contents

Introduction: Why Are You Reading This?p. 1
1 Just Be Yourselfp. 7
2 You Can't Love Anyone Until You Love Yourselfp. 29
3 Expectations Lead to Disappointmentp. 61
4 You Get What You Get and You Don't Get Upsetp. 89
5 Nobody Can Make You Feel Bad Without Your Permissionp. 111
6 Honesty Is the Best Policyp. 133
7 Follow Your Blissp. 151
8 Live Each Day Like It's Your Lastp. 179
Conclusion: So What Now?p. 209
Acknowledgmentsp. 213
Notesp. 217